I tapped my horn ever so lightly and kindly gestured, “You can make a right on red.”
The car in front of me had stopped, and with no pedestrians in the crosswalk, nor any approaching the crosswalk, and no oncoming traffic in sight, I had assumed the woman in the black sedan didn’t realize that the “NO RIGHT ON RED” sign ahead was in fact, time restricted and didn’t apply to us here at the moment. I gave her a friendly reminder.
Suddenly, out from the driver’s side window came that unmistakable hand gesture most of us have come to know as “the bird.” It literally felt like I got punched in the face.
“No, no no, it’s OK…” I once again, try to gently indicate to her reflection in her rear-view mirror, that it’s alright to make the turn.
OUCH… That finger again, and this time, it was pumping.
Well, I guess I struck a nerve. The light turns green and we’re on our way. I try to change lanes so I can apologize for the miscommunication; but this woman isn’t having any of it. She vehemently swerves over, so I am unable to do so.
OK, so at this point, I should probably just leave well enough alone, but I don’t give up that easily and there’s another red light up ahead, so I try once more.
Success! I change lanes, pull up next to her, and roll down my window. I attempt to offer up an polite explanation in hopes of relaxing her furrowed brow.
Would you believe, she gave me the finger again?
I don’t know why, but I just felt like I needed to clear the air. If for no other reason, than to not be the cause of this complete stranger’s anger today. Heeding my own advice to spread love, I tell her I’m sorry for the misunderstanding, and there’s really no need for us to be so nasty. (Included myself in the “us” so as not to have her think I was singling her out)
Good Golly, if looks could kill, I’d be dead right now. She proceeds to tell me to “Shut the f#@k up, and just drive.”
So, I did. Feeling slightly confused, I shrugged and drove away. I pulled over and thought about what just happened. It got me thinking about the world we’re currently living in; With so many people who are angry or upset and at odds with one another. Treating each other with such disrespect, and contempt. Sadly, nowadays it seems to be everywhere.
Rather than wind up depressed about all of the me versus you’s… or the us versus them’s, I took a few minutes to remind myself that life is a beautiful gift, and we are all one people living on an amazing planet in a great, big universe.
And while there will always be those who hate, there are also plenty who love.
And where there is darkness, there is also light.
Our diversity makes the world an interesting place. A difference of opinion can make for compelling conversation. We don’t have to agree with one another to respect one another.
I don’t know why the woman in the black sedan was so annoyed. Perhaps she was simply having a bad day, and our encounter was just bad timing.
In any case, I hope her day improved.
And I hope yours is awesome.
and love always,